The art of the Thank You note
Your mother may have taught you early on that writing a proper thank you note is as important as eating your veggies. But as an adult, with e-mailing being the quickest and most popular way to communicate with everyone these days, the ability to write a formal thank you note may have fallen by the wayside. Though it may seem archaic, thank you notes still hold a very important place in our culture. So how do you write one? Read below to find out how!
Before you put any words on paper, make sure the paper or card you are using is appropriate. Unless you are a 5-year-old, steer clear of crayons and clown stationery. Go for simple and tasteful. Also, always hand write a thank you note. Nothing more shows a lack of warmth like a type-written thank you note.
Greet the giver. Start with, “Dear XX.” Consider how you want to greet them. Are you close friends? If so, use their first name. If this is a friend of your parents, stick with a more formal greeting and use “Mr. or Mrs.”
Express gratitude. Thank them for the gift and be specific about the gift. What did they give you? By just saying, “Thank you for the gift,” you’re showing a lack of respect by not acknowledging exactly what they gave you. Think of it this way. If you spent a great deal of time and thought picking out a gift for someone and when you received the thank you note, they only referenced it as “the gift,” rather than “the really incredible digital picture frame that I’m sure you spent days trying to find,” you’d wonder if they even remembered what you gave them.
Discuss use. Explain what you plan to do with the gift. Did your mother-in-law give you a new piece of china that matches your set? If so, perhaps you can tell her how excited you’ll be to show it off next Thanksgiving when you have her over for the big meal. By describing its use you are showing that you have thought about the gift and how you will integrate it into your life.
Mention the past, allude to the future. Mention how nice it was to see them at the event you received the gift and speak of an upcoming event that you will see them at. For example, “It was so nice seeing you at our anniversary party. I look forward to seeing you during the holidays and catching up again!”
Say thank you again. Though this may seem redundant, it’s not. It’s a great way to conclude your letter and show your appreciation one last time.
Regards. This is where you end your letter. Use “Love,” “Sincerely,” “Yours Truly,” or whatever word feels most appropriate. Sign your name below and you’re done!